
Recently I was asked by a colleague in the Philly School District about how I run my advisory and why, to outsiders, it looks so successful. I enjoyed writing this and wanted to share it. Please give me feedback or criticism to make this a better experience for my kids. Let me know if you have suggestions for less corny activities we can engage in as a group.
So here it is the bad and the good of the "Windle -BurS" (<-- that is the name they chose together to call our advisory, it is a combination of 3 names of students... and they all voted on that one?!)
How my advisory is successful? This is a hard question to answer, so I will list what I think works and what I think does not work.
First I will start with what I currently do and then I will tell you how I want to make my practice better.
1. Every adult in our building has the same attitude towards our advisory time. That way it is modeled by the adults that we cherish and deem that time to be most important. (I know this is not always the attitude among staffers, you can make this idea apparent to your kids, by acting in certain ways and proving to them the importance)
2. The school has 2/year meetings with parents and teachers and the student comes to these meetings as well. During this time I impress upon the parent and the student I am thier advocate in the school. Meaning no matter what should arise bad or good I will be there to make sure that child is safe and comfortable in the school building. I also let mom/dad aware that much of the child's progress inside and outside the classroom is documented, and I will communicate that when necessary.
I have been to therapists, court cases and homes of my advisees.
3. This philosophy is promoted in our school in two ways. We teach children first and sometimes a realization of a bad/good day is more important than the lesson they are going to receive in that given day. This comes from a philosophy by Nel Noddings and her book
The Ethic of Care here <-- is a link to her background.
My Advisory & my actions:
I will visit kids on my prep & take them out of class for a short 2 min conversation to see where they are in their head, or help to solve a problem that they may be having Sometimes it is to tell them something good I have heard from other teachers. It is a big deal to kids that you take YOUR time to acknowledge them. They get this and acknowledge the effort you took to find them, to single them out. (this by the way is encouraged and a suggestion, as well as the idea of my principal Chris Lehmann)
I let my kids know they belong to me (I am the adult in the building that is there for them at any moment) and I am their safety net in the building for a hug or a talk or a laugh. To share stories or just to make it through the day. It is the softer side of school, the place where they get to be a kid and not a student. (also Lehmann's words)
I act like a bulldog to fight for their comfort and progress at the school. I am timely at mediating conversations between them and teachers they may be having a conflict with. I try hard not to let things fall though the cracks even if they are small matters. If I do, I tell them I have not forgotten about the issue and will address it as soon as I can.
I apologize if I feel like I did something to offend them or give them the wrong idea. I apologize if they feel like I overstepped my bounds or made them uncomfortable. I try to find what works with each child, like a stern conversation or a hug with some kind advisce to get their act togher.
They know they can come to me at anytime in the school day and I will drop everything I am doing if they are in crisis. I go as far as finding coverage for my class so I can help them then and there.
I try to help them stay organized with what is going on in school and I am very serious when it comes to school wide efforts. College is coming and we have to do some boring activities for that, so I let them know it is going to suck but we will get through it together and we will make it as fun as possible. These are the days I surprise them with candy and snacks and if they complete a mundane activity they get to pick a treat.... yes it is bribing but they really don't mind! And you get to look like the best adviser ever! :0)
Surprise them with a pizza day. Have a cereal day - they bring in their favorite cereal you bring milk, spoons and bowls. Try to have them organize food days. Maybe one loves to make a certian treat or dish, encourage them to bring it in on advisory day. Have a combined peanut butter and jelly sandwich day with another advisory, it is cheap and they LOVE it.
We close the door and they are allowed to rant and rave about any issue going on and it STAYS in that room. They like to get off their chest about the difficult teacher that day or what kid has been a real jerk. They like to talk about decisions in the school they don't agree with. Their favorite topic is fairness and how something was done to defy their idea of fairness. I let them do this and I am silent and interject only when I think they are going in they are going in a direction that will make their live harder.The key to this is that they only want to be listened to.They want an adult to take what they are saying seriously and not blow them off as having a temper tantrum. They love these days and pull their chairs up close to my desk and they totally loose track of time. It becomes a very special moment for us to bond over issues that they feel passionately about.
We also talk about good things that happen to us.
I try to share as much as I can about myself, my ups and downs, my short comings. I tell them that I love them.
I even fight for those kids who are considered troubled and disruptive to the school. I look for their good qualities. I inform teachers how to handle them in a classroom setting, some need to move constantly, some need a job, some need to be told immediately they are inappropriate and not to let it go. Some need to know they can leave the classroom at anytime with out getting into trouble, like that door is not a trap to them. I ask teachers to send these troubled kids to me before disciplinary so that they can decompress and talk about the problem and feel like they are being heard and being treated fairly. I let the teachers know about their struggles and why it is they act out the way they do in the classroom. I am not soft on on these kids, I give them hard boundaries and let them know they have to respect the boundaries and me. I ask the kids not to put me in a corner where I can't help them because it will compromise my job and my reputation with my colleagues. I try to sympathize with them and let them know they made mistakes but it doesn't change the fact I care about them and will always advocate for them to the best of my ability.
Here is what I don't like about my advisory:I am not organized about it. I don't plan ahead to make it more of a tight knit group. Most days we sit and chat and I want this time to be more meaningful. This is partly to do with my personality. I can't stand the hokey "hippie lets get to know each other better" activities. But I also have not done the research to find activities that would achieve the same goal in not such a corny way. I feel like I let some students go for too long and we become distanced. I do this because I feel like I lack the ability to reach the child... and I am afraid to approach it in the wrong way. And I hate to admit this... I just give up. I give up because I want to be perfect and my personality is an all or nothing kind of mentality. So if I feel like I can serve them, I stop trying. (eeeek that was hard to write)
I have a hard time keeping track of their academics and this is a huge problem because the student can get themselves in such an academic downward spiral they become hopeless. And by the time I get involved there is not much I can do. This is when I feel like I really let them down and my colleague down as well as the parents.
Advisory next year:I am planning on their final year to teach them how to manage student loans, what an interest rate is, how to balance a budget, a checking account, savings account, a credit card. Life skills... How to buy furniture, how to get a lease. What to look for in a good apartment, how much to pay for an apartment in relation to their income. Phones plans and basic niceties. How to buy a car. What loans really are and how they can get out of hand. How to have a back up skill so they can work in whatever city or town they live. I believe they should have a skill so they can bring in a decent wadge, to get to their dreams. What tools to have in their possession/abilities to solve their own problems and to help the people around them.